Vietnam, in ten long-winded observations.
Love: The People
We may have mentioned (oh, once or a hundred times) that before we came to Vietnam, we had read and heard accounts of the Vietnamese people being extremely aggressive. To the point of being unkind. I would usually write off a few bad accounts–chalk it up to that whole every-party-has-a-pooper syndrome–after all, some of our favorite places have been cities that people profess pure unadulterated loathing for. HOWEVER, we heard and read so many accounts of people vehemently disliking their time in Vietnam (I actually heard the phrase snake pit!!!) well, I’m not going to lie, I was nervous.
Well, we’ve been here for three weeks now, and I honestly don’t know where these people were. I know that everyone has different likes and dislikes, but seriously, who were these people talking to?? I have all but fallen in love with some of the people we have met here. From children who pop out of doorways and race up to you to shout “HELLOO!!” then run away just as quickly to teenagers who can’t stop giggling when they sit down next to you on the local bus to beach vendors who plop down on your chair with you and proceed to have a 30 minute discussion with you about their kids, your family, etc, etc, etc., to the teenage waiter who sat down with me at the market stall and filleted the whole fish that had just been barbecued for me under the watchful eye of his father, these people are charming.
In my observations, the Vietnamese can be a bit more aggressive than in other cultures. Sometimes that’s entertaining: the woman who walked up to me in the Dalat market and whacked me on the arm to try to get my attention to sell me some plums or the lady who gave me a great big smile and a good-natured pinch when I ran by her on the beach; sometimes not so much so: the elderly lady who was shockingly strong and almost knocked Adam down the stairs of a train because, well, he was in her way. In most cases, it really comes across to me as a cultural thing, and not at all as a malicious thing. To me, it’s just one more thing that keeps our visit to Vietnam interesting. That said, on the whole, the people have just been lovely.
Love: The food
You know those people who eat food because otherwise their bodies won’t go anymore? Those people who look at food as fuel only? It has become clear to me on this trip that Adam and I are not Those People (not that I ever really entertained any notion that we were). Vietnam is like a paradise for people who love good food. You really cannot beat a country that serves delicious food on every street corner, some of the strongest coffee you’ve ever tasted, smoothed out with a shot of sweetened condensed milk and glasses of bia hoi (fresh beer) for the equivalent of a quarter. Every dish has contrasts of texture and temperature and flavor–crunchy and soft, hot and cold, salty and sweet, spicy and tangy.
Sweet Delicious Iced Coffee
We often start out the day with a steaming bowl of Pho, the quintessential rice noodle soup. Volumes have been written about Pho, so I’ll simply say that when this is done well, it’s better than I ever thought a soup could be. If we tire of soup for breakfast, we can have a baguette and still rest easy that we’re eating the local cuisine–thank you French colonization.
The options are endless for other meals–curries, stir fries, noodle dishes, rice dishes, seafood, oh the seafood (god bless a country with this much coastline!). To add to it, each area or city has their own local specialty. Hoi An, home of more tailor shops per square inch than any other place on earth,* is also home to what just may be my favorite dish in the world–White Rose. It’s a delicate rice paper dumpling stuffed with prawns. The flavors are subtle and delicate, but never bland, and while the dumpling just melts in your mouth, the shrimp stuffing provides enough texture to keep it interesting. The beauty and the sadness of the whole thing is that you cannot get them anywhere but Hoi An. Oh I want to go back already.
Hoi An was also home to the teenage server I mentioned above who filleted my garlic, lemongrass and chili flavored fish (barbecued inside a banana leaf) and whose father eventually came over to the table to supervise and ensure that we had gotten all the meat out of the fish. These people appreciate food.
*Yes, I made that up, but it just might be true…
Love: Chubby babies
Need I say more?
Love: The Sense of Community and Family
My favorite times of day in Vietnam have quickly become the very early morning and the mid-evening. That is when the entire town, regardless of where we are, seems to come together. In Hanoi, it was around the central Hoang Kiem Lake. In Nha Trang, the beach was the meeting place. We were amazed to find the streets and beaches absolutely teeming with people in the wee hours of the morning. There were senior citizens doing Tai chi, teenage boys playing football, women playing badminton and teenage girls walking arm in arm, gossiping away. In the evenings, as the heat begins to dissipate ever so slightly, the families come back out in huge groups.
In the beach town of Nha Trang, we were astounded when we lazily looked up from our spots on the beach to see thousands of people filling the previously empty sandy stretches as the sun went down. It seemed that regardless of what else was happening, the people gathered. To play, to talk, to rest, to just be together. It really is remarkable.
Nha Trang Beach in the evening
Love: The Traditional Dress
Nowhere more than here have I noticed people wearing the traditional dress as part of everyday life. Not as a costume for the tourists, but rather, because, in the case of my two favorite pieces, the ao dai and conical hat, because they are beautiful and practical, respectively. The ao dai is a beautiful dress-like top featuring a high neck and long sleeves with front and back panels (split at the waist), fluttering down to mid-calf length, worn over loose long pants. It’s elegant and graceful and there’s nothing so quintessentially Vietnamese to me as the image of a woman buzzing by on a motorbike with ao dai fluttering around her. (Well, maybe the cigarette smoking cyclo driver, but that’s not nearly as pretty of a picture.)
My other favorite is the conical hat. Nearly anyone who works outside sports one, as it is just the perfect form of sun protection. And, as with everywhere we’ve been in southeast Asia, the people here are seriously concerned about sun protection. The very sweet girl working at our hotel in Dalat was worked up nearly to the point of hysteria reminding us not to leave the hotel without hats to protect us from the sun. That is, until a friend of hers, a westerner, reassured her, “Don’t worry, they’re not Vietnamese, they like the sun, like me!” She smiled bashfully and told us to have a nice day.
Vegetable sellers with conical hats in Dalat Market
Love: The passion for all things kitsch
The people have an unabashed love for all things kitschy–it is not unusual to find a statue of Buddha in a pagoda adorned with neon halos, nor to see a crucifix on top of a catholic church outlined in neon. In the town we’re in right now, Da Lat, there are huge stores of stuffed animals for sale, paddle boats shaped like swans and the opportunity to have your picture taken with Vietnamese cowboys. Also, it’s not at all unusual to see a grown woman wearing a Minnie Mouse sweater or a shirt decorated with rhinestones and glitter. It may not be my style, but they embrace it with such gusto, I can’t help but love it.
Neon Buddha
Love: Lotus fields
Quite possibly the most beautiful crop ever–I don’t think I’ll ever tire of seeing water-filled fields dotted with huge vibrant pink flowers as we drive through the countryside.
Do Not Love: The Honking
The traffic in Vietnam is madness. It is crazier than anywhere we’ve ever been, even in the smaller places. To combat some of the chaos created by rivers of motorbikes and bicycles flowing in all directions and on the sidewalks, cut only by steel-nerved pedestrians and racing buses, the horn is used as a defensive and offensive driving tool. It can mean anything from “No, I will not be slowing down while flying through this intersection, thank you kind sir!” to “Oh, shit, I‘m about to crash into a bike carrying three kids under the age of six!!” to “Hey foreign tourist, want a ride on my motobike??” to “I have a refrigerator tied to the back of my motorbike, can. not. stop!!” to “I drive a very large bus and could squish you flat, but I’m doing the really neighborly thing and warning you as I overtake by blaring my obscenely loud horn just as I pass, you’re welcome!!”
Not only does it have so many varied meanings, but many have tricked out their horns to ease the exertion necessary to make a whole lot of noise–one quick punch to the steering wheel and the horn honks once at full volume, then echoes down to nothing, about seven or eight times.
For the most part, the traffic, despite its madness, works well. Most of the people here have been riding motorbikes since before they could walk. They can anticipate what the guy riding into oncoming traffic is going to do next and they can accommodate it. We have seen a couple of crashes and a few near-crashes, but never seen anyone seriously hurt. I can understand why the horn is actually a necessary driving tool. However, sometimes the noise is purely gratuitous. When two buses going in opposite directions are passing each other on an otherwise deserted highway at 3 am, why must you honk so many times? When I am crossing the street and you have lots and lots of room to go around me on your motorbike, why so many fierce blasts of your horn-trumpet? My ears are starting to ache from sleeping with earplugs. No sir, I will not miss the horns.
Most Striking: Unstoppable forward progress
You get the sense, as you explore the cities and towns, chat with locals and just generally observe, of a feeling of unstoppable progress towards the future. It’s difficult to describe, but as much as the past is clearly revered (for example, ancestor worship is common in Vietnam), there is still an energy that is focusing on moving forwards, rather than dwelling on the past. The best example I can think of is that as we’ve traveled the country, I have never once gotten the feeling that anyone has given a moment’s hesitation to the fact that we’re Americans, despite the devastation caused by what is known here as the American War. I was a bit nervous about that before we came here–would people react badly when we told them that we were from the USA? The answer is an emphatic no. We’re regularly asked where we’re from, and upon telling them that we’re from the US, people are always eager to know exactly where we live and to tell us about any family they may have living in the states. We’ve not had one single instance of people displaying any kind of coldness.
Do Not Understand: The Censorship
With everything having been so wonderful here, it’s easy to forget that it’s still a communist country. The most prevalent reminder of this is on the television–even the cheap hotel rooms have satellite TV, but it’s nearly impossible to watch a movie. Entire scenes are regularly deleted–anything with any measure of nudity, profanity, or whatever else might strike the censors as inappropriate. I couldn’t even watch Hamlet, for crying out loud (and yes, I know Hamlet’s family was one messed-up group, but c‘mon, it‘s Shakespeare!!)
The TV was my first reminder of the control that the government exercises over the people. I was reminded again later when I read a news story about the government’s crackdown on members of the democratic party. In the past month or so, several outspoken activists have been arrested for spreading propaganda against the government. The idea of being in a place where one can’t safely speak out the government is a scary thought. I suppose the one upside of this is that, through the internet, both sides of these stories are available to the Vietnamese people, rather than the one-sided accounts that appear in the local media.
All in all, we are having an absolutely stellar time and loving Vietnam. We leave the cool temperatures of Dalat for the madness of Saigon (Ho Chi Minh City) this afternoon. We’ve been busy and have lots of stories and pictures to share–until then, I’ll leave you with one photo for those of who were wondering if Adam was ever going to shave again 🙂
~Meg
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